Mom Notices Extreme Change In Daughter's Demeanor, Then Looks In Her Bookbag & Contacts School
FaithTap Staff 5/9/2017
There once was a time when childhood and adulthood used to be two strictly different phases of life; one defined by endless play and carefree days, and the latter with the responsibilities of family and career.
However, over the last couple of decades at least, the clear separation between the two worlds seem to have blurred - as we see more and more children going through the same problems and anxieties as adults!
Case in point, take Bunmi Laditan for instance who is a writer and mom who wants what every parent wants for their kid - a well balanced and happy childhood.
Recently though, Bunmi noticed that her 10-year-old daughter Maya looked very stressed and worn out when she got back from school every day. It was a pattern that Bunmi felt had gotten worse and worse over the years:
" ... over the past four years I've noticed her getting more and more stressed when it comes to school. And by stressed I mean chest pains, waking up early, and dreading school in general."
Bunmi didn't have to look too far to find the source of all this anxiety; simply peeking inside her daughter's book-bag, Bunmi found that the 10-year-old was getting about 2-3 hours of homework each and every day!
This in addition to being in school from almost 8:00am to 4:00pm every day, just didn't make any sense! Bunmi vented in a Facebook post:
"Is family time not important? Is time spent just being a child relaxing at home not important? Or should she become some kind of junior workaholic at 10 years old? ... Children do not need hours of homework time to succeed yet we act like sitting at a kitchen table after a full day at school somehow makes sense. It does not. IT DOES NOT. IT. DOES. NOT."
In a decision that might seem resolute and daring to some, Bunmi decided to send an email to Maya's teachers telling them that after taking her daughter's health into account, it was in her best interest to no longer engage in hours of homework assigned by the school every day.
Not knowing just how the school system would respond to such a decision, Bunmi has even considered taking the extreme steps of homeschooling Maya in case they are not willing to respect her decision to just let a kid be a kid:
"My kid is all done with homework. If the school wants to punish her for it, then I guess I'll have to figure out how to homeschool. I'm very nervous about it because although I work from home, I do work ... I'll have to hire a tutor to help me and will need to find a group of parents doing the same thing, but I have no choice at this point."
Bunmi's bold actions have many parents applauding. Her message is very straightforward:
"I don't care if she goes to Harvard one day. I just want her to be intelligent, well-rounded, kind, inspired, charitable, spiritual and have balance in her life. I want her to be mentally and emotionally healthy. I want her to know that work is not life, it's part of life. Work will not fulfill you. It will not keep you warm- family, friends, community, giving back, and being a good person do that."
Whether it is because of new technology, social media, or the general evolution of our society, it is disheartening to see that the pressure of becoming successful and well-liked is creeping into the minds of even the youngest ones in our society.
Bunmi however has decided to stand up against the system and we hope that more parents join in to make sure that childhood remains a fun part of growing up.
Sources: Facebook/Bunmi Laditan, Facebook/Bunmi Laditan