Young Lady Graduates, Then Reveals Truth About Stepdad She'd Kept Quiet For 18 Years
Kristin Danley 6/29/2017
Parenting can be both a tough job, yet rewarding and blissful. It's full of beautiful milestones, tears, boo boos, hugs, kisses and time outs.
Being a step-parent also can be a wonderful role in a family, but it also can be awfully tough. For one young woman, she decided to salute her stepdad on Father's Day as a way to thank him for being the only dad she had and sticking by her, even when their relationship was rocky.
For 18 years, her stepdad was in the picture. He was there for every high and low point in life. She felt compelled to share her sentiments toward her stepdad on social media, heralding him for choosing to raise her not just as a stepdad, but as her dad in every way.
"This is the man who raised me. The man who gave everything to get me where I am today. The man who stepped up to the plate and made the choice to love me as his own when he did not have to."
The young woman noted that while her stepdad wasn't present for her birth, her first steps or her first word, he was there when it counted. He was there for her when it mattered most to her. That's what was important, she said.
"For 18 years, you provided for me and supported me in every aspect of my life and pushed me to be the best person I could be. And for 18 years you worked so hard to fulfill a promise you made to a little girl you had only known for a short couple of months. While teaching me how to ride a bike, you told me you were going to do everything you could to send me to college so I could have a successful life and together we accomplished that dream, something that seemed so far out of reach."
Not only did this young woman celebrate milestones with her mom and stepdad, she graduated high school with her sights set on college, just like she and her stepdad had planned.
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She acknowledged that their relationship was tenuous and she couldn't imagine being a stepdad, putting up with a little girl that could be challenging at times. But he loved her, supported her and pushed her, which meant the world to her.
"Things have not been easy for us. I don't know what being a stepparent is like; I know I did not make things easy for you, but you continued to be there for me even when it seemed like I did not appreciate it."
To thank her stepdad for all that he'd done for her, she promised something to him in return. She could only hope to live up to the example he set for her as a human being.
"I promise you I am going to go out and be the best person I can be. I am going to take what you have taught me the past 18 years and make something great out of myself. I could never repay you, there are not enough thank yous, there are not enough words to express how grateful I am for you."
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The stepdaughter reassured others out there who find themselves with a new face entering into their family, with a person who wants to love them and support them but who they may harbor ill will toward, to instead give that step-parent a chance. She then thanked all stepparents for their selfless and sometimes difficult efforts in merging into a family that may have been torn apart and full of grief, but is looking for a fresh start.
"Having a stepparent may not seem ideal at the time, but to all the dads and moms out there stepping in to take care of us kids, thank you. We thank you for loving us as your own when you did not have to. I promise we appreciate it more than you will ever know."
The young woman said that the love a stepparent can give to a child is more important than sharing the same last name. It's more important than being family by blood.
She said she'll never "hold a grudge" against her birth father because he didn't stay around to develop a relationship with her, because his leaving instead opened the door for her to have a chance with a man who wanted to be her father; someone who stepped in despite a "messy divorce" and became a blessing to her family. He became someone who wanted to love her, to raise her to guide her. The man she calls dad.
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