Teacher Rants About Parents Who 'Coddle And Enable' Difficult Kids
Cailyn Finkel 4/11/2018
From the time she was a little girl, Julie Marburger knew that she wanted to be the teacher. The thought of commanding her own classroom, helping struggling students and really making a difference in the world was her ultimate dream. That's why, after getting her teaching license and degree, she pursued a career in teaching.
Unfortunately, just two short years after she started teaching, Julie realized the dark truth about her career choice. Now she's speaking out about the injustices she's faced from school administrations, parents and students alike...
Shortly after yet another poor interaction with a nasty parent, Julia took to Facebook to share why she's leaving her "dream job" just two years in.
"I left work early today after an incident with a parent left me unable emotionally to continue for the day. I have already made the decision to leave teaching at the end of this year, and today, I don't know if I will make it even that long.
Parents have become far too disrespectful, and their children are even worse. Administration always seems to err on the side of keeping the parent happy, which leaves me with no way to do the job I was hired to do... teach kids."
"I am including photos that I took in my classroom over the past two days. This is how my classroom regularly looks after my students spend all day there. Keep in mind that many of the items damaged or destroyed by my students are my personal possessions or I purchased myself because I have NO classroom budget.
I have finally had enough of the disregard for personal and school property and am drawing a line in the sand on a myriad of behaviors that I am through tolerating.
Unfortunately, one parent today thought it was wrong of me to hold her son accountable for his behavior and decided to very rudely tell me so, in front of her son."
With classroom supplies destroyed, decorations torn down, covers ripped off of books (as you see below), and an excess of other issues, it's hard for Julie to keep spending her hard-earned money on classroom materials when she knows they'll be treated so badly by her students.
To make matters worse, Julie says a large portion of her students are completely failing her class. Even though she's reached out to their parents, tried private tutoring sessions and spent money on extra tools to help them, no one seems to care.
"Report cards come out later this week, and I have nearly half of my students failing due to multiple (8-10) missing assignments. Most of these students and their parents haven't seemed to care about this over the past three months, though weekly reports go out, emails have been sent and phone calls have been attempted.
But now I'm probably going to spend my entire week next week fielding calls and emails from irate parents, wanting to know why I failed their kid. My administrator will demand an explanation of why I let so many fail without giving them support, even though I've done practically everything short of doing the work for them.
And behavior in my class will deteriorate even more. I am expecting this because it is what has happened at the end of every other term thus far."
Sadly, this is an educational epidemic that seems happening in classrooms nationwide. Teachers feel unappreciated, underpaid and without help from school officials to right the ship.
"I have never heard of a profession where people put so much of their heart and soul into their job, taking time and resources from their home and family, and getting paid such an insultingly measly amount. Teachers are some of the most kind and giving people I have ever met, yet they get treated so disrespectfully from all sides.
Most parents can't stand to spend more than a couple hours a day with their kid, but we spend 8 with yours and 140 others just like him. Is it too much to ask for a little common courtesy and civil conversation?
It has been a dream of mine for as long as I can remember to have a classroom of my own, and now my heart is broken to have become so disillusioned in these short two years. This is almost all I hear from other teachers as well, and they are leaving the profession in droves. There is going to be a teacher crisis in this country before too many more years have passed unless the abuse of teachers stops.
People absolutely HAVE to stop coddling and enabling their children. It's a problem that's going to spread through our society like wildfire. It's not fair to society, and more importantly, is not fair to the children to teach them this is okay.
It will not serve them towards a successful and happy life.
Many will say I shouldn't be posting such things on social media... that I should promote education and be positive. But I don't care anymore. Any passion for this work I once had has been wrung completely out of me. Maybe I can be the voice of reason. THIS HAS TO STOP."
Since posting her heartbreaking story online, it's been shared 420,000 times and liked by more than 331,000 users. Julie's tough words and harsh criticisms of the teaching profession make it clear why educators all over the country are rallying for better pay and a well-equipped classroom -- from basic supplies to support.
If we don't start making a drastic change in the way we think about schooling, future generations will be the ones who are really harmed.