After 30 Years Of Marriage Mark Harmon's Wife Finally Reveals The Truth
Cailyn Finkel 5/22/2018
For most Hollywood couples, scandal tears apart their relationship before they even get the chance to really know each other! We've seen the same narrative play out time and time again -- two stars meet, fall madly in love, get married, have a child and endure a painful (and often public) divorce.
Thankfully, NCIS star Mark Harmon and his wife of 30 years, Pam Dawber, found a way to break the mold. Pam recently spoke about the secret to their success -- and it's not what most people would think...
In a rare interview, Pam told Entertainment Tonight's Nischelle Turner their marriage's longevity all has to do with her staying out of the spotlight while her husband lives the Hollywood life.
"I don't think two people can work all the time in show business and stay married."
Pam explained that she enjoyed acting on a hit sitcom and dabbling in other artistic ventures, but as soon as she became a mother, nothing else mattered. The Hollywood life just wasn't appealing anymore.
"I was in a number one show. I had my own deal. I got to do Broadway. I got to do musical theater. I got to do cartoon voices.
I did everything you can do in this business, and then I had children and it's like, 'I'm not going to chase this fame thing.'"
"I wanted to drive my kids to school. I wanted to be there for their birthdays and bring cupcakes and donuts and do the school festivals and all that, and I did. I got to teach in their art class and so it was a different life then and I was very happy to do it...
I'm just their mom. They don't care about what I did. They care about what they are doing. They want their parents to care about what they are doing.
Their father is already iconic enough for two boys. I am just the mom."
In addition to Pam taking the "backseat" when it came to acting, Pam says that the key to a happy Hollywood relationship is staying out of the tabloids. She knows that a simple rumor can turn a loving marriage into a painful union filled with distrust and resentment.
"Notice you don't see us in the magazines. When you're married, that's real life. And to go and plaster your kids... I'm sorry. I'm not for that."
For Mark and Pam, there's nothing more important than keeping their home life private -- and after 30 happy years of marriage, it seems to be working!