Mother Of Three Discovers She's Not A Bad Mom After All
Karen Brost 1/11/2018
Jordan Harrell is a mother of three who knows a thing or two about fussy babies. With all three of her newborns, she had to deal with issues like colic, constant crying, ear infections and food allergies. For Jordan, that meant many tears of her own and little to no sleep. As she explained in a Facebook post,
"During those years of long nights (and long days), there was LOTS of crying. There were a few nights I wasn't sure I could take it anymore. I wanted it to stop and told the baby as much. They never listened."
Like many new moms who go through these kinds of challenges, Jordan felt like a failure. She wondered how anyone but an ill-equipped mother could have three babies that were all so difficult to care for. But then, during those moments of self-doubt, Jordan would think back to a story that her mother had told about Jordan's brother Justin. When he was a baby, he was colicky and clingy and never slept.
One day, Jordan's mom had to take Justin to the church nursery in the middle of the service to try to calm him down and keep him from crying. There she met another mom who had a baby about Justin's age who was nestled peacefully against her chest while Justin screamed at the top of his lungs. Jordan's mom couldn't help but ask the other mom what her secret was. The other mom replied,
"Well, he's actually not mine. I'm his foster mom, and it's not so much that he's easygoing. He just spent the first few months of his life crying non-stop with no response. Nobody ever came. The crying didn't work for him. So he stopped. And now, he never cries."
When Jordan learned what this foster mom said next, it was a life-changing moment for her. The foster mom told Jordan's mom,
"Your son's crying is a good thing. It means he trusts you, trusts that you'll come."
This revelation that Jordan was not a failure as a mom led her to post this message to other moms of fussy babies:
"Be thankful for the crying. Go scoop them up and hold them close. They're not crying because you're a bad mom. They're crying because you're such a good one."
Jordan's Facebook post was shared more than 1,300 times and it became an inspiration to other moms. One of them posted,
"This hit home so hard with me! I'm currently in one of those times where it feels like all my son does is cry and is SO attached to me that I never get any time to myself. And sometimes I get so frustrated and this made it so much better. Thank you for sharing!"
So remember mom's, there is a light at the end of the tunnel and the crying just means that your babies trust you'll be there to comfort them when they need it.